25 Q&A’s About Dating a Japanese Man: Answering All of Your Questions About What It's Like Being With a Japanese Man
I am constantly asked questions about Japanese men almost every week since I came to Japan. A lot of women from all over the world are curious about what it’s like to date a Japanese men thanks to anime, porn, hentai,books, news articles, YouTubers, and random stories that you’ve heard from your friends and family that have been to Japan.
I am going to answer all of your questions in both a blog and a video on YouTube. As you can probably imagine there is no way to answer you guys’ questions without stereotyping or generalizing an entire race but there are obviously differences in culture based on race and nationality and Japan is no different! Now to contradict that last sentence, it goes without saying that there will of course be individual exceptions to every rule but this blog post will talk about the overwhelming majority based off of the men my foreign friends and I have personally been with as well as the answers that I received from both my Japanese male & female friends. Obviously I haven’t been with every man so I cannot speak for everyone but after 2 years of dating, gossiping, and asking my friends personal questions, I can give you some pretty general answers based off of my personal experiences and observations. As always feel free to be defensive and get offended in the comments down below.
1.) Do Japanese men like foreign women?
Japanese men love foreign women. White black Hispanic dark or light skin, it doesn't matter as long as you are cute and exotic looking. The beauty standards that you read and hear about are beauty standards for Japanese women. As a foreign woman you will not be held to the same standard. Most of the men here actually like foreign women because they look so different and have more curvaceous bodies and diverse features.
2.) Do Japanese men have small dicks?
Yes! On average most Japanese men are very small. The best sex that I’ve had and the biggest I’ve been with was a Japanese man. However it's no secret that their are traits which can be more commonly found in amongst different races. Even Japanese men know that they're generally smaller (on average) than their western counterparts and so they will often apologize for this. Are all Japanese men small? Of course not!
3.) Are Japanese men good at going down on women?
Japanese men are NOT selfish in bed and tend to focus a lot on pleasing their partner through oral sex kissing, hugging, cuddling etc. often times more than they focus on themselves although this can also stem from being insecure about their penis size and ability to perform well. As always every man is different and you can come across men who are bad in bed and that are selfish.
4.) Is it true that you have to take a shower before sex?
Japanese men like to shower before and rinse off again after sex it's unusual for your partner to go straight to bed after sex. To not do so is seen as dirty but some people don't care.
5.) Do Japanese men like to cuddle?
Yes and no. Japanese men like to cuddle as much as an American guy does but eventually they will want to turn their back towards you and go to sleep and snore until you wake up.
6.) Are Japanese men short?
Yes they are but unless you’re a really tall girl, most men here will still be a few inches taller than you. About 3-4 inches taller on average.
7.) Are Japanese men romantic?
Japanese men aren't romantic. They aren't really affectionate either,r but if he is internationalized and knows anything about foreign women he will generally be willing to embarrass himself by attempting to be or do romantic things to make you happy.
8.) Do Japanese men date/plan dates?
Yes! They’re great at planning dates (a nice fancy restaurant, themed restaurant, a kawaii cafe, an outdoor picnic, upscale hotel bar or a fancy karaoke bar are all common dates.
9.) Do they buy gifts for their girlfriends?
They’re great at buying gifts. Designer handbags, expensive perfume, and sexy lingerie are gifts that you can expect year around.
10.) Are Japanese men dishonest about their marital/relationship status?
They're “honest” but ONLY if you ask them to be. They’ll tell you how they feel, about their past, what they did or plan to do, if they’re married, have kids, are divorced etc..
11.) Do Japanese men ignore your calls, emails, and texts for days or weeks at a time (slow texters)?
If he really loves you he will text you whenever he's not working, from the bathroom stall, his desk, during his 1 hour lunch break, during the train ride to or from work, or as soon as he wakes up. They don’t work as much as you may think! If he isn’t texting you throughout the day he probably isn’t serious about you and your’e missing some hints.
12.) Do Japanese men send good morning texts?
Most Japanese men also text good morning and goodnight everyday to their girlfriends.
13.) I like Japanese men but I’m worried that I won’t be able to find a boyfriend. Do they like dark, tall, fat women?
Most men don’t hold Japanese standards for their foreign women.They’re men not robots! They each have their own individual taste in women. If they wanted a girl who looked or acted Japanese they'd have dated one! Don’t worry about your weight or height it just makes you even more exotic and sexy because you’ll stand out in a sea full of goldfish you're like the sexy beta fish (just don’t act like one).
14.) I like Japanese men but I think I’m too old to find a man do they like older women?
Most men here do care about your age and if you're over 30 (especially over 40) you will be openly referred to as an obaasan (meaning grandma or old lady in Japanese). However a lot of men are willing to date older women and there are a lot of single older men both divorced and never married who are intelligent, sexy, financially stable, gentlemen, and bilingual
15.) Is it true that Japanese men aren’t gentlemen?
Most men here aren’t gentlemen most of the time. Aside from hanging your coat, choosing the less comfortable chair, and occasionally holding a door if he can remember to he will not go out of his way to make sure that you’re first, but usually he will offer to pay for the date.
It’s a bit embarrassing for a girl to pick up the tab OR for you to split it with one.You should still offer to pay him back later or treat to treat him next time though!
16.) Is PDA okay in Japan?
It’s not illegal but it’s looked down upon to do anything frisky or sexually suggestive in public. Most men are simply shy about kissing or holding hands and public because it’s not commonly done here so it will draw eyes to the two of you. They won’t mind giving you a quick kiss and hug before departing at the end of a date though.
If he’s more outgoing he will hold your hand as you walk around during your dates and kiss you on the lips or even makeup with you in public. You see it sometimes, but it’s not as commonly done here as it is in America.
17.) Do Japanese men move in with their girlfriends before they get married?
If he is serious about you and you’ve been together for a little while he won’t mind moving in with you as long as you are okay with it.
18.) Is it weird if he doesn’t tell his friends and family about you?
Yes and no. If he likes you he will introduce you to his friends ASAP and even his family after you’ve been together for some time. If he plans to marry in the future he doesn’t want to blow the first impression so it’s not unusual for this to take as long as a year or 2 before he arranges a day for you to meet them especially if they live in another prefecture. His family doesn’t care to meet his one night stand or summer fling so for most men this is a big step to take but for some family’s meeting you isn’t a big deal as he may have introduced his other female friends to his family before and thus you’ll appear to just be another “good friend” of his and not their potential daughter in law.
19.) When do men propose?
Most men prefer to get married close to or a little after 30. They prefer to have graduated from their university, have a good savings, a stable career, a good resume, and of course to have enjoyed their 20’s kid and commitment free.
20.) Who pays for the wedding?
You’ll both pay for the wedding about 50/50. His family & your family will also help with the planning and cover the expenses. It’s very similar to how it’s don in America however your friends will be expected to give you gifts of several hundred dollars
21.) Do they lick ears, eyes, toys, backs of knees, armpits, faces, and bellybuttons?
Ahh good old porn and educational hentai! Yes some of them do but not every man is into this.
22.) Do they expect you to be a housewife?
Yes most men here are very traditional and culturally will expect you to do the chores, cook, clean, discipline and educate the children. Women here are taught how to do these things as young girls by their mother and relatives and most are okay with doing so and expect their man to work to provide for the family and help to by taking out the trash as well as taking over mommy duties during the weekend.
23.) Do they prefer big butts or breasts?
Different men have deferent fetishes. Most men prefer a woman with big boobs over a large butt but against depends on the man.
24.) Will he be okay with me working or making more money than he does if we get married?
Most men nowadays won’t really mind so much and will understand that because you’re a foreigner this is what you want to do however others a traditionalist and want to make their parents and grandparents proud by being the sole provider for their family. It all depends on the man but MOST won’t mind and some will actually expect you to keep working after getting married and having children especially if he is working a low paying job or if he was a gaijin hunter.
There are gold digging men here in Japan too!
25.) Is it okay for me to initiate sex Do Japanese men not like sex?
You probably read the same articles that I did when I was a teen before I came to Japan. Yes it is okay! You might find some super old fashioned man that gets creeped out about you being open about your sexual desires but most men will actually find this to be really hot especially since most Japanese women are super shy about sex since it is culturally taboo and not ladylike for a woman to well “talk dirty”.
As a foreign woman they stereotypically expect you to be this way [open about your sexual desires] anyway!
Also no that is not true! Japanese men LOVE sex arguably more than their western counterparts, but they simply don’t have the time, space or money for it. The homes here are small, a lot of men live with their families until they get married, salaries are low,and work hours are long. It’s hard to find enough time, energy, or money to even get in the mood when you still have to eat dinner, clean up the house, prepare for tomorrow’s work day, and shower.
However the sex and porn industry here is huge. Men spend hundreds of dollars a month at clubs, bars, brothels and they desperately scour through dating apps looking for cheap, free, and easy women everyday.
Have any other embarrassing or strange questions to ask or answers to someone else’s? Please feel free to leave a comment down below and help a fellow sister out!
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