Dating in Japan can be fun, crazy, and interesting. There are so many things to get used to and sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between a general cultural difference and a personality trait. While there are millions of handsome and charming Japanese men ti date and marry in Japan there are also tons of men that you will want to avoid like the plague. Everyone looks for different things in a relationship. If you are looking for someone to be faithful to you and to create a family with then these guys will probably break your heart, waste your time, and be a total disappointment. Here's my list of 20 guys that I'd personally like to avoid ever dating again (and I think you would too).
You can watch my YouTube video on this topic here...
1. The Bucket Lister
This man is only dating you to check you off of his list of things to do before he dies. He simply wants to experience having sex with a foreigner so that he can tell his friends that he smashed a black chick or a blonde girl.
2. The Gold Digger/ Fame Whore
This guy has no interest in you. He either wants to use you for money or for fame (or both). He is simply using you to gain status as a mini-celebrity to fame. He wants to be followed by you, tagged in pictures, and seen in videos with you so that he can hopefully gain his own following and start his own channel. He will lead you on until he either establishes his own fan base or has gotten enough gifts and money from you to either sustain the lifestyle that he wants or to move on to his next victim.
3. The Gaijin Expert
This guy thinks he knows you so well and has you all figured out because he has a history of dating people like you. He thinks he knows you already because he has already had sex with 5 white American girls so clearly you don't like sushi and love sex. While his intentions can be good at times this guy probably has a fetish and can be rather rude,degrading or abusive. His assumptions and know-it-all attitude towards you is a total turn off especially since you do happen to like the things that his ex girlfriend didn't and your personality isn't as loud or open as her's either despite him insisting that something must be wrong with you since you aren't the loud, crazy, fin partying American type like the women before you.
4. The Depression Sex Addict
This loser uses his fake mental health diagnosis as an excuse to get women to sleep with him. He claims to just need a hug or sex and has probably used that exact line on all of his other victims too. He'll either stay in touch with you for easy and free sex or ghost you once he has gotten his daily dosage for medicine from you.
5. The Perfect Player
He has you all figured out. He knows that foreign women love romantic guys and need their "good morning" and "goodnight" text messages. He seems like Prince Charming but really he is treating countless other girls the same way as you at the same time. He's so romantic and sweet that you'd never suspect that he is capable of being unfaithful to you, but that's exactly what he is...unfaithful and deceitful.
6. The American Dreamer
He has convinced you that he loves your home country so much that and cannot stand Japan so much that he wants to move with you to America to raise your family and live a life that doesn't involve strip clubs and heavy drinking after work. He tells you that he hates Japanese women and politics and shares all of your beliefs. He can't stand the work culture here and he hates how closed minded and racist or homophobic Japanese people. While you might think that this guy really shares your feelings towards Japan (and he might even be telling you the truth) he is only saying this so that he can get visa status with ease in the U.S. Once he gets what he wants he will enjoy his new life in Japan more than he does his relationship with you. He is probably going to cheat on you and live out his fetish of chasing hot foreign girls down on the beaches of California or finally having that threesome that he always wanted. He doesn't love you, but he loves your citizenship or race and he wants an easy ticket there.
7. The Family Man
This man is in a rush to have a family. It can be because he is older and a bachelor or a man that has a fetish. He might not even really intend to marry you but wants to show off to his friends, coworkers, or family that he can pull off a successful nanpa, speak English, or pull a hot foreign woman. He knows he isn't the ideal beauty standard and is moving too quickly in the relationship out of fear of losing you. While he might seem like a good man he doesn't really love you he just loves the idea of saying that he finally got married or has started a family. His goal could be to make his parents happy or to have a mixed race baby. Despite barely knowing you he already claims to be so in love with you and knows that you're the one. It can be flattering at first until you realize that he would say the same thing to another girl tomorrow should you cancel the Christmas Dinner date that he planned or break up with him.
8. The Sex Based Tour Guide
He simply travels for sex or he plays tour guide to locals that visit his city in the hopes of sleeping wit them. He might pretend to be your boyfriend or act as though he is in love with you but really he says and does the same thing for any cute foreign girl he meets. He has a girlfriend from his business trip in the Philippines and another girlfriend from his study abroad in England. He might be fun and romantic but his intentions aren't good. You aren't his only lover. He might go all the way to New York to see you but after your date is over he probably has another girlfriend to meet in New Jersey and Connecticut before going to Germany to meet his new "friend". He won't tell you everything about himself and will be a bit secretive and mysterious. He only plays boyfriend while you're in town or when you contact him worrying about when he will come back to see you.
9. The Salary Sleaze
This guy uses his work as an excuse for only having 90 minutes at a love hotel with you once a week. He might be living a double life with am entire family at home and is only using you for cheap and easy convenient sex after work. He claims to be too tired and too busy to do anything else with you.
10. The Story Teller
This man has a story for everything. He claims to have left his phone at home or forgot his key at the gym so he won't be able to see you tonight. He isn't hungry because he is fasting or he went out for dinner with a client. While his stories seem to make sense at first that become a constant thing and eventually start to not make sense anymore. How could he have met his clients without his cellphone or wallet? You'll notice that this guy has a long story for anything you ask about or accuse him of.
11. The Fantasy Man
This guy has a cosplay fetish or wants to try something even kinkier. He dreams of having sex with his favorite anime or video game characters and is too shy to ask his real girlfriend or wife to experiment with him. This man might be fun to date but he isn't serious about dating you and will withhold information about himself since he has no interest in settling down and committing to you. Why stop with just one girl when he can have sex with other girls with better cosplay skills?
12. The Struggle Lover
This guy has no money and doesn't have his personal life together. He's scrapping for change and using coupons on your dates. You wonder "how are we supposed to get married if he can't even afford a date at a family restaurant?". He expects you to work in the future and for you to be a housewife. He expects you to do things that he'd never ask a Japanese woman and assumes that since you're a foreigner (unlike a Japanese woman) you won't mind. While he might really love you he can be a bit sexist and rude and his priorities aren't right. Building a future with him more than likely means living paycheck to paycheck.
13. The Sex Masseur
This guy offers free massages he has an obsession with touching women. He might have his own shop or practices at home. His goal is simple. He just wants to make you feel good for free. He wants to rub, lick and oil you up, which sounds like a dream (and might feel like one too) but you should wonder how many women he has done this to and be concerned about possibly being filmed or photographed naked without your knowledge or consent. You can end up on a pornographic site and not even know it. While his massages might sound appealing to you they're risky. You have no idea how many girls he has put his hands on and he or his surfaces can be infected with just about anything. This isn't someone that is going to only have hands for you.
14. The Host Guy
This guy looks like an anime character in real life. He is sexy and mysterious. He cares more about his look than you do! He knows exactly what to say or do and when to execute. His job is based around flirting with and even having sex with women so he knows how to take charge and keep the conversation going. He has no shame in holding hands or kissing you in public which might seem great until you consider the fact that this dude is having the exact same date that he has with you in approximately 2 hours. He is a cheater, a liar and just looking for free and easy sex as well as a release from his normal work.
15. The Shy Guy
This guy seems like the nerd straight from out of a manga that has a crush on the main character. This dude is super socially awkward. He acts strange and seems to be on the verge of having a heart attack over small gestures like making eye contact with you or being touched by you. While his shy behavior can be cute it can also come off as creepy and be a total turn-off.
16. The Bachelor
This guys seems perfect at first. He's financially stable, works a good job, had a college education and he is single. You ask yourself "how can a man so handsome and well off not have children or a divorce record?". You'll late discover that this guy sees you as his child and I don't mean that in a sexual way but rather an unbalanced way. This man is stuck in his ways and treats you like a child. He is not open to change or being told what to do and has an old-fashioned and rather sexist mindset. It is difficult to reason or compromise with this man. It's either his way or the highway. This guy can be controlling and abusive.
17. The Serial Cheater
No matter how good of a girlfriend you are, even if you were to get married this man simply can't stop cheating on you. It doesn't matter how good your blow jobs are, how often you have sex, or how much personal space you give him he simply won't stop because he has an addiction and he knows that you will forgive him.
18. The Wannabe Foreigner
This guy might try to be a black or a white guy. He might try to be a rapper, a skater, or a rock star. These are the Japanese guys that wear dreadlocks and braids, dye their hair blonde, and try their best to act and look like stereotypical westerners. They tend to be cheaters and liars and make awful partners as they are too busy trying to be someone other than themselves and often aim to show off and please other people like their friends or followers. His obsession with being a stereotype can be flattering but is also off-putting and not someone that you'd want to start a family with.
19. The Horny Virgin
Similar to the"shy guy" he is very open about his love and want for sex. He is either really bad or lacks sexual experience. His kisses are sloppy and slobbery and he doesn't seem to be capable of changing positions. He fucks like he's never had sex in his life and if you unfortunately make the mistake of sleeping with him you'll later wish that you can press an undo button and erase or forget about this experience. This is a body that you don't want to count!
20. The Gaijin Hunter
The goal for these guys are simple. Find a hot foreigner that speaks English. Their goals is just to have an ideal human being (preferably someone who is not Asian at all or at least not Japanese). Any girl will do! They will insist on being more compatible with white women or foreigners in general. These are the guys that studied abroad for a year and become a vegan Catholic overnight. They want to show their friends that they can speak English and pull a blue eyed blonde girl. Their interest and love isn't for you but for your race and language. They want someone that they can practice English with and sleep with free of charge.
Thank you for reading! If you have any advice that you would like to share or if you have experienced dating a guy like this in Japan then please feel free to share your experience and please leave a comment below!
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